Monday, February 13, 2017

Mommy Style Monday: Connecting With Your Spouse

Today's topic is something I am excited about. I don’t usually ever talk about my relationship because that is something that I like to keep private, just between the two of us. I think that at some point people wonder if there is a Mr. in my life, ha ha. And I am here to tell you that yes, he very much exists but he just likes to stay more behind the scenes. That is also why he hardly makes it to the blog or instagram. So anyway, now that we got that out of the way, today I want to talk about a few of the things we like to do to “keep the spark alive” if you will. And we are keeping this rated G, ha ha! I'm talking about date nights and how to connect with your spouse.

In our relationship and in our household, our spouse is #1 priority. And I am choosing to leave religion out of this one. This is more than just religion. To me Spencer is most important and then our kids come second. To me, the reason for this is because if it weren’t for him, my children wouldn’t be here. I want my daughters to grow up and see us as a great role model for their future relationships. I want my daughters to know that their parents love each other and to make good decisions when they are older. That is why the connection between us has to be a positive one and one that always has a fire burning. 

One of our favorite things to do is movie nights at home. We probably do them three times a week. We are lucky enough that  both our girls go to bed early, Emmi at 7pm and Addi at 8 pm. This is a schedule that worked for us when Spencer worked long hours and we didn’t have much time for us. So we decided to make the most out of things. We usually pick out a movie pop some popcorn and other snacks. Not having close relatives live in the same city as us has been extremely hard. Both Spencer’s parent and my parents live four hours away from us. We tried a baby sitter with Addi when she was very little but both Spencer and I agreed that it’s not something we feel comfortable with. I know a lot parents who benefit from sitters and I’m not saying that is bad, but just for us it’s not something we like to do. That is another reason why our weekly at-home date nights are crucial for us.

Other ways and things that work for us is doing something that the other person enjoys. Find what that is and be good at it. Spencer loves playing computer games. One day I decided “what the heck” and I tried it. Surprisingly it became almost a nightly thing for us. Playing together, side-by-side, it was fun to have something we could do together and enjoy it.

At home date nights don’t have to be lame, they can be as romantic as you want them to be.
Here are some more ideas:
1. A DIY Paint night
2. Couples game night 
3. Fondu night 
4. Cook a new recipe together 
5. Candlelit bubble bath 

P.s By no means so I consider myself a relationship expert. This is just some things we have learned along the way that work for US. That is the one thing I will recommend. Meet in the middle with your spouse and find what works best for YOU.

Check out these ladies and their post on connecting with their spouse. 

Kiana at Glitter & Donuts

Madeline at CaseyLand
Chandler at Life as a Larsen

Rachel at Tutus and Heels

Kahana at A Beautiful Life
Monica at It's All About
Andrea at Snow by Heart
Erica at Good Job Momma
Cayli at Nightchayde

XO, Rachel


  1. Movie nights at home are awesome! Especially when its more planned and food and treats are involved! :)

  2. I feel like we said a lot of similar things! Marriage always comes first, and we are in the same situation, far away from family! We luckily made friends who we trust a lot and are willing to switch babysitting with us. It's so nice. I love your date night ideas! I'll have to save those!

    1. I love it! I also feel like our husbands do a lot and they deserve to come first!


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